To Parents Of High School & College Students
Young people today have a strong desire to talk with their parents. Parents also have a strong desire to talk with their children. The biggest problem, while I have asked both parents and students, is; who starts and what do we talk about?
Young people today (teens and twenties) are becoming much more independent and all knowing and are very skeptical when it comes to sharing their thoughts and feelings with their parents. Parents on the other hand, are afraid of the eye roll, the look, and the attitudes that come from their child if Mom or Dad suggests that they want to sit and talk. It seems that the defensive wall goes up immediately and both parties are ready for an argument. Then to avoid any confrontation, no communication takes place. Sound familiar Mom & Dad?
If parents are going to show their children that they are really concerned about them, then parents need to become parents and take control. Your attitude of love, and patience becomes vitally important during your initial attempts to communicate with your child. Stay very positive and let them know how much you love them, how proud you are of them and how you would like to help them in developing their future goals.